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Your son’s wedding day is one of the most significant milestones of your life. And while the spotlight will shine brightest on the bride, your role as the mother of the groom matters too. Choosing a dress that is modest, flattering, and appropriate for the celebration is part of honoring the occasion and showing support for your son’s new eternal partnership.

Choosing the Right Color

Traditionally, the mother of the bride chooses her dress first, then the mother of the groom selects something complementary. This helps ensure the mothers’ outfits don’t clash in photos and creates a harmonious look.

Neutrals such as navy, silver, taupe, or chocolate are often safe choices, but you can also pick a shade within the wedding’s color palette if the bride agrees. Steer clear of white (reserved for the bride) and black (traditionally for mourning), unless the wedding theme specifically calls for it.

Picking a Flattering Style

Your dress should highlight your best features and make you feel confident. Don’t just trust how it looks on the hanger—try it on, move around in it, and even sit down to test comfort. Bring a friend or family member for a second opinion if you’d like.

The formality of the wedding will guide you, too. A casual afternoon reception may call for a refined church dress, while a formal evening affair may require a full-length gown with elegant details.

Coordinating with the Bride’s Family

Etiquette suggests you touch base with the bride or the mother of the bride before making your final decision. This isn’t about asking permission—it’s about being thoughtful and collaborative. Coordinating colors and styles creates a cohesive family look without taking any attention away from the bride.

Shoes and Accessories

Don’t forget the finishing touches! Choose shoes that you can stand, walk, and dance in comfortably. A tasteful necklace, earrings, or a wrap can pull your outfit together without overdoing it. Avoid accessories that might compete with the bride’s bridal look—think elegance and simplicity.

Your son’s wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime day for your family. A well-chosen dress will help you feel beautiful, confident, and ready to celebrate as you welcome a new daughter into your family. Pick something that makes you smile every time you see the photos—you’ll be grateful you did.