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It’s totally normal to feel a little nervous as your wedding day gets closer. Maybe you’re feeling butterflies, can’t sleep, or have a few moments where your emotions bubble up out of nowhere. If that’s you, take a deep breath—you’re not alone, and it doesn’t mean anything is wrong.

Let’s talk about pre-wedding jitters, what they really mean, and how to handle them with peace and perspective.

What Are Pre-Wedding Jitters?

You’ve likely heard the phrase before, but what are wedding jitters, really?

In most cases, it’s just your mind and body processing big change. Marriage is a beautiful covenant, and preparing for your wedding day involves planning, spiritual readiness, and emotional transitions—not just for you, but for everyone around you.

So if your heart starts racing while you’re picking out centerpieces, or you find yourself extra emotional at your final dress fitting, that’s okay. You’re human. And this is a big moment.

What Wedding Jitters Are Not

Here’s what pre-wedding nerves are not:
They’re not a sign that you’re making a mistake.
They’re not a red flag that you should cancel everything.
And they’re definitely not an indication that your relationship is somehow broken or fragile.

Even the happiest, most secure brides can feel overwhelmed or emotional in the final stretch before the big day. The pressure, the anticipation, the “what ifs”—they’re all part of the lead-up. It’s how you respond to those feelings that matters most.

How to Handle the Jitters

If you find yourself feeling anxious or unsure, try this:

• Take it to the Lord in prayer. He knows your heart. Ask Him for comfort and clarity.

• Talk to your fiancé. Chances are, he’s feeling some of the same things too.

• Lean on someone you trust. Your mom, your sister, a close friend, your bishop—don’t keep it all bottled up.

• Go for a walk. Breathe. Move your body. Reconnect with your “why.”

• Spend time in the temple. Nothing brings peace like being in the Lord’s house.

You don’t have to push the feelings away—you just need to remember who you are, who you love, and what this journey is really about.

Talk About the Big Stuff

Sometimes, wedding jitters come from something deeper than butterflies—they can be a quiet fear of the unknown.

Have you and your fiancé had honest conversations about the big topics? Even two temple-worthy Latter-day Saints can have very different perspectives on important life decisions—and that’s okay. But it’s so important to talk about them now.

Ask yourselves:

• How do we feel about money? Credit cards? Saving?

• How do we handle disagreements?

• Where will we live after the wedding?

• When do we want to start a family—and how many children do we hope for?

• What are our goals for school or career?

• How will we balance time with both sides of our families?

• Do we show love and respect for each other without trying to change each other?

You don’t have to agree on everything, but you do need to understand one another—and feel confident navigating life’s decisions as a team. Being open about these topics now can bring so much clarity and comfort. It may be exactly what your heart needs to calm those nerves.

You’re Not Alone

Every bride’s experience is different, but know this: it’s completely normal to feel nervous as the wedding draws near. That doesn’t mean you’re not ready—it means you care. You’re thinking deeply. You’re preparing for something sacred.

So if you find yourself crying in the car over napkin colors, it’s okay. Laugh about it later. Lean into your faith and the people who love you.

You’ve got this. And the best part is still to come.