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The first year after your temple wedding can be full of joy, learning, laughter… and a few growing pains too. Many years ago, President Russell M. Nelson remarked “marriage brings greater possibilities for happiness than does any other human relationship.” It’s also a time of adjustment, as you and your spouse navigate the beautiful (and sometimes bumpy) path of becoming one. You’ve covenanted to walk side by side for eternity—and now comes the sacred and beautiful work of learning how to do that.

It’s a tender, stretching, faith-filled season. And with a little patience, prayer, and perspective, it can also be one of the sweetest years of your life.

Whether you're still in the honeymoon glow or facing your first unexpected disagreement, here are some encouraging reminders and gospel-centered tips to help you build a strong foundation as husband and wife.

Manage Your Expectations

There’s an old joke about a bride declaring, “Mom, I’m at the end of all my troubles!” and her mom replying, “Yes… but at which end?”

The truth is, every couple hits moments of surprise in the first year. You’re not doing it wrong—you're just doing something new! And even when your marriage is sealed in the temple, that doesn't mean it’s going to be effortlessly perfect.

You might discover quirks you didn’t know about, or habits that drive you a little bit nuts. That’s okay. Try to see those differences as part of the refining process—and breathe through the moments that challenge you. Remember: this is a covenant relationship, not a fairy tale. And it’s worth every ounce of effort.

“Be Fiercely Loyal to Each Other” – President Hinckley

Once you’re married, your spouse becomes your greatest earthly priority—second only to the Lord. That means creating healthy boundaries with extended family and friends, and making decisions together as a team.

Loyalty also means protecting your spouse’s reputation. Never speak unkindly about them to others. If something needs to be worked out, take it directly to your partner—not your mom, not your group chat, not even your best friend.

Marriage thrives on trust, safety, and unity. Build those on purpose.

Communicate with Intentionality

Strong communication isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you practice. And for most couples, the first year of marriage reveals exactly where those communication gaps are hiding.

The three most common sources of conflict? Money, intimacy, and in-laws. So be proactive. Set aside regular times to talk with no distractions. Be open about needs, preferences, and emotions—and speak with love even when it’s hard.

Say “I love you” often. Say “thank you” even more. And when needed, say “I’m sorry” and mean it.

Serve Each Other, and Serve Others Together

Serving your spouse is a Christlike way to express love. Look for little ways to lighten their load—whether it’s washing the dishes, running an errand, or leaving a kind note where they’ll find it.

Make date nights a priority. Go to the temple together. Read The Family: A Proclamation to the World, and talk about what kind of family you want to build.

The best marriages grow stronger through shared service and a sense of divine partnership.

Make the Lord Part of Your Marriage

Temple marriage is a three-way covenant: you, your spouse, and the Lord.

Keep Him in the center.

Establish a habit of couple prayer and scripture study. President Monson once shared advice from his sealer: “Pray together, aloud, on bended knee. Every night. Take turns.” It’s simple. And it works.

Set spiritual goals together, too—like paying tithing, attending the temple, or building your food storage. These small acts of obedience invite heaven’s help into your home.

Nurture Other Relationships Too

Yes, your spouse comes first. But that doesn’t mean giving up everything else that makes you you.

Stay connected to longtime friends. Reach out to other couples for double dates or game nights. Keep up your own hobbies and creative outlets, and give your spouse space to do the same.

Just make sure your outside interests never pull your heart away from home. The key is balance—and a willingness to check in often and adjust together.

Final Thoughts

Your first year of marriage won’t be perfect—but it will be yours. And if you invite the Savior into your relationship, He can transform even the hardest moments into something beautiful and eternal.

So be kind to each other. Keep the promises you made. And above all, enjoy the journey of growing together as newlyweds, day by day, with hearts full of faith and hope for the future.