The father of the groom usually has it easy—he rents a tux, shows up, and smiles for the camera. But for you, the mother of the groom, the search can feel more complicated. You’ll want a dress that feels modest, flattering, and elegant, while still allowing your son’s new bride to be the star of the show.

Here are some ideas to help you find the perfect gown for your son’s wedding day.

Department Stores

If you’ve browsed the formalwear section of a department store lately, you’ve probably noticed that modest options are few and far between. Strapless, backless, and sleeveless gowns often fill the racks. Still, if you’re willing to dig, you may find a lovely dress that meets your needs. And when you do, it’s worth the hunt.

Online Formal Wear Retailers

Shopping online gives you far more choices than what you’ll find in-store. Start with local department store websites—returns are easier that way. You’ll often see more sizes, colors, and styles online, plus competitive pricing from online-only retailers. Just make sure to read the return policy carefully in case the dress doesn’t fit or feel right once it arrives.

Altering a Store-Bought Dress at Home

Sometimes the perfect dress is “almost perfect.” That’s where alterations come in. A hemline that’s too short can be extended with a border or ruffle. Sleeves can often be added by a skilled seamstress—or you can pair your dress with a bolero, jacket, or wrap for coverage. Small changes can make a huge difference, turning a near miss into a perfect fit.

Specialty LDS Formal Wear Stores

If you live in Utah, Idaho, or California, you may already know about specialty LDS retailers who carry modest gowns designed for weddings and formal events. Many of these stores also sell online, so even if you live across the country, you can shop their collections with confidence. These shops understand the importance of balancing modesty with elegance.

Wherever you shop—whether in person, online, or at a specialty store—make sure the dress makes you feel beautiful, comfortable, and confident. The spotlight will shine on the bride and groom, but this is a milestone for you too. Choosing a dress that helps you feel your best will let you focus on what really matters: celebrating your son’s eternal marriage.