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The father of the bride has it easy—he puts on his suit, or rents a tuxedo, shows up, and smiles for the camera. For you, the mother of the bride, it’s not quite that simple. You’ll want to find a dress that is modest, flattering, comfortable, and beautiful. And yes—you deserve to shine a little on your daughter’s wedding day, too.

Here are some ideas to help you find that perfect gown.

Department Stores

Let’s be honest: walking into the formalwear section of a department store can feel discouraging. Sleeveless, backless, or strapless gowns dominate the racks. But don’t give up—if you’re willing to take your time, you can sometimes find a gem that meets your standards. And once you’ve found “the one,” it feels worth the hunt.

Online Formal Wear Retailers

Online shopping has opened up a whole new world for mothers of the bride. Most department stores carry more options online than they do in-store, which also makes returns easier if the fit isn’t right. Online-only retailers often have competitive prices and a broader selection, too. Just make sure you check the return policy carefully before you click “buy.”

Altering a Store-Bought Dress at Home

Don’t overlook the option of tailoring. A dress that isn’t quite perfect can sometimes be made modest with small changes. Need a bit more length? Add a border or ruffle along the bottom. Want more coverage? A seamstress may be able to add sleeves—or you can pair the dress with a wrap, bolero, or jacket. These simple modifications can turn “almost right” into “absolutely perfect.”

Specialty LDS Formal Wear Stores

If you live in Utah, Idaho, or California, you may already know about specialty stores that cater to Latter-day Saint standards of modesty. But even if you don’t, many of these retailers have online shops, so you can browse their collections from anywhere. These stores are familiar with LDS weddings and design dresses that balance modesty, elegance, and style.

Wherever you shop, the most important thing is that your dress makes you feel confident and comfortable. The spotlight will always be on your daughter, but this is a milestone for you, too. Take the time to find something you love—you’ll be grateful every time you see the wedding photos.